By now most of the big stuff is probably done. The thank you notes have been written and mailed. The marker or head stone has been placed or you’ve found a place for the urn. You’ve probably filed for the life insurance, and perhaps you’ve even begun to clean out his closet.

You may be wondering, what have I missed?

• Have you changed the titles to the car?

• Put the deed to the home in your name?

• Have you changed the utilities and cable service into your name?

• Is your medical power of attorney up to date?
  

• Have you updated your estate plan or will?

• Have you spoken to an accountant or tax expert about any tax consequences associated with gifts you have made or increased allocations from IRA or investments?

• How about you? What are you doing to take care of you?

• Are you up-to-date with your health and dental care?

• Are you eating well?

• Are you learning to cook or have you gotten someone to mow the lawn?

• Have you had lunch or dinner with a friend?

• Have you done something fun? A movie? Golf? A ballgame?

Scientists tell us there is a hand/mind connection. Doing things with our hands actually increases our sense of well-being. Even simple chores such as washing the dishes, preparing your meal, or even making your bed help to provide purpose and a natural routine. Why not step outside of your box and try something creative that you used to enjoy doing or have thought about trying? Don’t discount the value of a craft, woodworking or art project.

Finally, see people. Human contact is vital to your new normal. If your friends and family aren’t calling you, then call them. Look for a movie you would like to see, a museum you would like to visit, or a restaurant you would like to try and ask someone to join you.